"We're just friends" Yeah right!!!

I'd rather be average than Sexy!

So I'm sat on the train on my way to Luton for 2days of songwriting and recording. I totally love my job and rarely see it as work apart from some of the crazy early mornings I have. On the way to the station I've probably scanned 10's of posters, billboards, ads, marketing the 2011 almost 12 woman, in what seems to attract men and women to buy into the fact that she is oh so perfect and desirable. Whether it's to be her (for the woman)or to have her for the man. Recently I was thinking about all the programmes that are on our screens and the silly ads trying to market their latest perfume or their newest hair colour. One thing that is thrown in our faces is a half naked women seducing her man or well paid actor all for some hair dye or scent. I mean i think its totally ridiculous but the fact Is this world and all it's connotations is selling billions of products because of Sex! Which brings me to my point of this blog. As a woman i want to be valued and loved for who I am not my gender, my curves, or my bum. ( butt for you Americans). I hate when some brother thinks he has lyrics and says your so sexy. Sexy suggests I've revealed something of myself that was supposed to be hidden for my husband. Sexy suggests I need you to notice me by the way I dress. I know the ads fuel men's desires and that you guys are trained to look at us ladies but, please if you can try and avoid that word. We are not for sale, we want to be adored and loved not seen as sexual objects. Don't follow the pattern of the world cos it's not what very woman wants to hear. Let us be valued for the person we are not the physique we display. And to my younger girls looking sexy is not the way forward whether the media says so or your friends say so, sexy comes from the word sex so if you want to be displaying an image that causes men to see you in that way than look in your wardrobe and see just what needs to go. To my brothers try calling her gentle, beautiful, gorgeous, kind.

Peace and love.xx